As Tomforde astutely observes, people-pleasing is often a maladaptive strategy that stems from a deep-seated fear of rejection and abandonment. We sacrifice our own happiness and well-being in an attempt to garner approval and validation from others, only to find ourselves feeling drained, resentful, and unfulfilled. By contrast, embracing selfishness allows us to break free from the cycle of people-pleasing and cultivate a more honest, assertive, and empowered way of living.
The book ultimately argues that selfishness—healthy, deliberate, boundary-driven selfishness—is not the opposite of love. It is love’s foundation. Becoming Selfish By Liz Tomforde EPUB PDF
: The romance is always paired with significant personal development. As Tomforde astutely observes, people-pleasing is often a
Contemporary Romance, Sports Romance, Romantic Comedy Format: EPUB & PDF (Digital Download) Trope: Brother’s Best Friend / Best Friend’s Sister, Forced Proximity, Hockey Romance prioritize your own mental health
Some readers might assume Becoming Selfish is about narcissism. In fact, the novel uses “selfish” ironically—it’s about learning to set boundaries, prioritize your own mental health, and stop being everyone’s caretaker. Eli learns that focusing on his NHL dream doesn’t require shutting everyone out. Logan learns that putting herself first for once isn’t a betrayal of her past.
